It’s always a puzzlement to me that there are people who can see great inconsistency and shrug. “Well, that’s the way of the world.” “Ah, humans.”
I know. I get that. But I don’t really GET it. I don’t understand it, and I don’t respect it, at least not most of the time.
Here’s my thing: pick that values that you want to define you, and try to live them out.
If you value participation, then seek participation; seek to participate.
If you value humility, try to practice it. Know the difference between being humble and being a doormat.
If you value expertise, seek it. Try to practice it. Be rigorous in every way you can.
Most of all, recognize when you are in a leadership position (remembering there are many kinds of leadership, and many of the best do not feature high positions out front of a pack). Act like it.
Complex institutions (including families, businesses, communities) almost always contain degrees of hypocrisy, and that’s to be expected. But if we as individuals can’t live out our own theory and practice of integrity, what hope do our institutions have?