I’m an idea person. I have a lot of them, and I like to talk about them. I like other people’s ideas, too, and not much makes me happier than an exchange of ideas, especially in person. (With good food and bev, preferably, though not necessarily.) So when I have a big new idea, I like to talk it out.
My latest big idea is a new blog. I’ll be announcing it here once I get it formed and fleshed enough that it’s ready for public engagement. And in the meantime, I’m seeking out smart people to help me think about its scope and ambition. Here’s a sampling of those conversations and what I’ve learned from them.
In a friend’s living room, with various babies crawling around, I chatted with a woman I’ve known for a long time but never really had a chance to buttonhole before. And I’ve wanted to. She’s an organizer who works on smart and interesting issues, always justice-oriented, always thinking about the experiences of EVERYONE, not just the mainstream folks. She has a huge, flamboyant personality, full of hugs and squeezes and prone to sitting on the floor and touching you while she talks. She reminds me that my own large, noisy self is usually toned down, and that sometimes I’d like it not to be. She reminds me that it’s okay to laugh loudly and share big enthusiasms and ask hard questions. When I mentioned my incipient blog, she said that she had one, too, and that she’d been NOT writing it for three years (hurray! I’m not the only one!) but that now she was going to begin, because you can only wait so long to achieve Full and Perfect Knowledge of your topic, and sometimes you just have to START, to get your ideas OUT there. She cited Myles Horton, which makes me want to reread We Make the Road By Walking. She proposed the concept paper as a way of sharing what needs to be shared, and I love it. I love her. I am inspired.
I talk to my program-officer husband about my project all the time, and to my amazing friend Kate who blends love and justice seamlessly in her many commitments at home, on her farm, in her paid work teaching new immigrants English, in her support of important causes. Both of them agree that the divide between what we do at home, what our homes are LIKE, how they are run, what they contain, who they include, and what we do outside in our paid work, our board work, our volunteer work, our social commitments and attitudes…that divide is far too great and far too thoughtless. Whether or not you work outside the home, I’ve decided, is no longer primarily a feminist question, because it’s determined by too many issues beyond our control. But HOW we live, how we conceptualize and raise our families, those are fundamentally feminist questions, human questions, and also questions of justice across spiritual, economic, financial, social, and environmental domains. My friend and husband help me see this.
A third (fourth?) conversation that wants to be mentioned here just happened on the phone. My dad, who has a complicated life and who has done social and humanitarian work in a bunch of contexts and had a career with the UN, caught up with me on the phone after a bit of tag. I caught up with him, really, as he had just finished some tractor work at his house — a totally off-grid, locally- and self-built timber-frame on nineteen acres with lots of forest, much garden, and some open field. He sat down in the tractor bucket to talk, pleased, I think, with this rudimentary and totally available seat. I could picture the cold wind up there chilling his phone hand; I imagine he switched hands a couple of times to warm up the other one. We talked about jobs, and work, and writing, and my boys; we chewed on the problems of civil society and an economy that has screwed itself by overprivileging the few at the expense of the many. He reminded me, when I mentioned my new blog and my hopes that it will serve as an idea-bank for a whole range of issues spanning love and justice, at home and in the world, that every conversation is just a conversation. And it helps to have an introduction, and it helps to have back-up materials, but mostly it is just a conversation. And people are kind and sometimes this conversation is their work, so get on in there.
As we hung up, he explained that he would now climb out of the tractor bucket.
Perhaps that what I’m trying to do today: have a conversation, then get out of the tractor bucket and have another.