It’s exhausting to keep living this nonlinear life, with its ups and downs, its difficult lessons, its outrageous joys. You learn something, then forget it, then spend years learning it again. I much prefer more academic models of learning, where we learn something, check it off as “learned,” and move on. (It doesn’t really WORK that way, but the shared illusion is so pleasant.)
Alas. Here we are. And so this holiday season totally ate me alive, and I was not present or thoughtful or connected. Indeed, I was barely civil. I spent much of my time holed up waiting for something loving or memorable or fun to happen…and as you might guess, those things don’t typically come looking for you. You have to generate them, and generative was about the last thing I was.
But it’s a new year now, and another new beginning. I will write again. (See? See? I AM writing.) I will read more. I will ask better questions of my friends and family and I will work harder to remember the answers. These are not resolutions, because those are part of the whole linear mapping of the world that frankly doesn’t work for me. But if I can hold to these simple intentions, I will be grateful: to show more often the love I feel; to use more often the gifts I cultivate; to move more often beyond a place of comfort. To hold myself open to the pleasure and the pain. To be both the adult and the child I am. To cherish, savor, create, let go. Most of all, to remember that ass-on-couch is a default mode rather than a true rest, and that restoration often looks like work.
Thanks for reading, friends. I hope to hear from all of you as your new year’s journey unfolds.