We all approach the world in different ways; heck, we occupy different worlds, for the most part. Even those of us who live together, who adore each other, and who share, in many ways, similar attitudes and beliefs. Often, those differences are a real problem, and sometimes they’re just plain funny.
My husband is a very relaxed guy. I am not. I have always liked order. He doesn’t care that much. I’m sure this is about differences of upbringing: his was secure and loving, so he didn’t feel much need to control his environment. I, on the other hand, did. Anyway, we’ve struggled with this range of issues for the nearly twenty years we’ve been together, and usually with good humor. Which is where this example comes in:
We recently bought a new fridge/freezer when our old one broke. We got a pretty budget model which we thought would do fine. Until we tried to load the freezer at home and realized that its single shelf is fixed in place six inches from the bottom and twelve from the top (never mind that it bows in the middle under ordinary weight). I tried, for a few weeks, to live with the necessary chaos of frozen fruits and veg that results from this total lack of structure, and then I lost it. The seventh time I tried to remove a single bag of peas and ended up working with both hands and my whole torso to staunch the flow of frozen food tumbling forth from the maw of this hideous beast, I hollered. Len ambled in, helped put everything away again, and then stepped back as I started to, er, explain that we were going to buy BINS, TODAY, because we were going to create a SYSTEM, because WHO LIVES LIKE THIS? I may have been emphatic, even vehement. Len, bold man that he is, grinned at me and said, as he patted the freezer gently:
“We already have a system! Frozen stuff goes in here.”
(Yes, we bought the bins. No, I still can’t stop laughing.)